Impotence is a man's inability or difficulty to have or maintain an erection. Although a lot of physical causes may be attributed to impotence, there are also psychological factors that lead to it. Some of these can be depression, stress and pressures about home or work, anxiety, relationship problems and arguments, insecurities and a low self-esteem, and even sexual boredom and the loss of intimacy. These problems can be addressed as psychosomatic problems since these situations are affected by psychological factors or the emotion.
When this is the case, then there are very high chances of curing the impotence. It may sound difficult at first, especially if you do not want to resolve the problem or you fear it, or worse is that you are unaware of the situation. However, when you have accepted that there is a problem and there is a need to work on it, then you can try different ways to treat psychosomatic impotence by using psychology as well. One does not need to turn to medications or surgery right away.
One treatment that you can undergo is Psychosexual Therapy. In psychosexual therapy or psychotherapy, the man and his partner are given techniques or exercises to help them renew their intimacy, sexual relation, sexual interests, and arousal. This can be done through talks, discussions, and activities that can lift the stress or anxiety that hasten impotence.
Another cure for impotence can be behavior modification. A new and positive outlook about one's self, performance, and even his partner can bring about change and improvements. Behavior modification can really take time, but it is also cheaper and does not only help cure impotence, it also improves one's personality.
To do this, here are a few suggested tips:
. Do a little reality check including a check on your personal situation and your present situation with your partner. What do you really feel about yourself, your member, and your partner?
. Talk with your partner to make things easier and lighter. It lifts up your burden and at the same time you are confident that there is someone who listens to you. If your partner is the one that's putting the strain on you, all the more that you should talk. Ask what your partner wants, say what you want, and come into a solution. You have to speak up and work things out together without turning into an argument.
. Your lifestyle is very important and it affects your penile health a great deal, so do a check on your lifestyle. Just like taking care of the rest of your body, you should also take care of your penis. Trim down your fat, alcohol and nicotine or tobacco intake. Eat healthier and try to do some exercises. If possible, get into an exercise program or visit the gym regularly.
. If you still have more concerns, then it's time that you should seek professional advice from a trained therapist or doctor. Remember that you should not be ashamed of your situation and that you are not the only one suffering from it.
Your health and a sound mind are much more important so you should do something about it.
The penis may come in different lengths and thickness; it even comes in different shapes. However, there are some people who are overweight that see their penises have become smaller. It did not get smaller; it's just that the body's size has grown to overpower the penis. Losing weight doesn't make your penis bigger or increase in size. Although, it can make your penis and scrotum "look" bigger when you shed off some fat, especially in the thigh and belly area. It will create an appearance that your penis is more protruding and that it is more visible with the reduction of those fatty tissues blocking the view.
Sometimes, being overweight or large is not just the reason for having a seemingly small penis. Temperature and sexual libido also makes the penis "alive" or not. When you are not aroused or when you feel cold, your penis wouldn't stand up or enlarge, giving the impression that it is small. You can also opt to remove some of your pubic hair to see your penis. Keeping a trim or well toned body can really add on to your self esteem and confidence about your penis. You don't necessarily need to jump into medications or devices to make your penis big, you can start with a lifestyle check and some improvements to improve your penile health and appearance.
Now with regards to your diet, there are a lot of weight loss programs that you can get into. In fact, your eating habits or eating lifestyle contributes a great deal into losing weight. Skipping meals won't do you good but eating healthier while doing some physical exercises can help shape you up. You can start by seeking advice from a health care professional and a nutritionist. Keep a relaxed mind together with your body and little by little you will see changes with your well being and with your outlook on that buddy of yours.
When losing weight, you should remember that cutting down on the calories can be a big help. If you can't totally cut down on the eating, you have to increase your physical activities. It would be better if you can do both but do it gradually. It wouldn't do you any good if you get into those fad diets or crash diets. Try looking for a program that suits you and it should be something that you can stick to. Maintenance is very important and once your dieting has started to take effect, it doesn't mean that you should stop immediately. In fact, doing them regularly until they become a part of your system helps give you an assurance that you can stay fit and that your penis isn't getting any smaller.
When it comes to your diet, take in less fat like oily or salty foods and sweets. Try taking in more servings of fruits and vegetables, since they are rich in vitamins, fiber, and water making you feel full. Eat a decent portion of meat and carbohydrates and cut down on the alcohol, caffeine, and cigarette consumption.
Women love their men strong and confident. They want to feel security in his loving embrace, yearning in his kisses and sincerity in their sexual encounters. Women love men who have the strength to stand up to what they believe in and admit to their mistakes.
Confidence. It all starts with the right attitude and positive thinking. You should not let insecurity and doubt cloud your outlook. You should, above all, believe in yourself. How can you exude confidence when you yourself don't believe in yourself?
Guys shouldn't think that "this girl is out of my league" or the many what-ifs. ("What if she turns me away?" "What if she already has a boyfriend?") No, that's not the way it should be. Develop your confidence and watch as your personality radiates from your words and actions. So how can you build up your confidence?
First of all, appearance matters. You don't necessarily need to be Hollywood material to score points with the ladies. You don't need to have Brad Pitt's boyish good looks, Hugh Grant's British magnetism or Arnold Schwarzenegger's bulging muscles. You should at least look neat and tidy though. Let your sweet side radiate from within; sometimes, that's enough to get the girls. It's the simple things that count. Open doors for her, hail a cab for her, those kind of things. You need not have a white steed and be her knight in shining armor.
Also, girls love bad boys (well, not the abusive and criminal types though). They think that bad boys are more mysterious and exciting. These guys appear as if they are untamed and unpredictable, not afraid of being just themselves or being too nice just to get approval. Women feel that they are a challenge and strive hard to get to know them better. They exude the confidence, individuality, and masculinity that are not found in wusses who act like spineless jellyfish or doormats.
Unlike confident men, the wusses constantly seek approval from women and act desperate and needy. They buy women's attention by giving them expensive gifts or taking them out to classy restaurants; though they might sound really enjoyable, you should already know that women need more than these.
More importantly, you don't even need to possess a 12" pecker to be confident. If you are indeed well-endowed, well then, good for you. Just don't use it as a pick-up line or use it to strike up a conversation. "I have a foot long schlong, wanna fuck?" That would earn you a nice dirty martini in the face, at the very least.
Of course, a huge member is probably a plus factor; but that doesn't mean you're more of a man than others. A real man is one who is responsible enough to get married and raise a good family, who has the strength of character to be a good leader as well as a follower, and who knows what he wants out of life and strives hard to get it.
In the 40's throughout the 60's, the United States experienced high birth rates, otherwise known as the "Baby Boom." Thus, people born within this era were called "Baby Boomers" who were known to wear mod clothes, sample hallucinogenic drugs, and rock with the Beatles. Great times. But where are the Baby Boomers now? At the turn of the millennium, some of them are in their 40's; the oldest already approaching retirement age.
Times have definitely changed; so as the Baby Boomers. They have noticed that their former youthful exuberance and ravenous virility are slowly fading away. This holds true, especially among the men. They may notice that their hairline is -- frightfully -- receding, their memory seems to be growing cobwebs and their sexual performance declining. Others may also experience insomnia or other sleeping problems, aches and pains, sweating and flushing, increased fat, loss of muscle mass and strength, irritability and crankiness, and even depression. Most men in this age will basically experience one or all of these in varying degrees.
When a man reaches the age of 30, his testosterone (male hormone) levels naturally and gradually declines. It does so at a staggering rate of 10 percent per decade. Since testosterone helps maintain sex drive, sperm production, pubic and body hair, muscle and bone, the consequences of aging slowly emerge as a man ages.
But do not despair. There are several ways to help Baby Boomers defy the effects of time. They should create a strategy for a healthy lifestyle that incorporates optimal diet, supplements, regular exercise, stress management, and natural hormone enhancement.
Today's diet is deficient in many essential nutrients, but high in sugar, fat, and salt. Your diet should ideally comprise of 25% protein, 25% fat, and 50% carbohydrates. Your protein intake should primarily be from plant sources like tofu and beans, with modest amounts from animal sources like meat. Fat from nuts and olive oil are preferable than from animal products. Eat a lot of fruits and vegetables since these are the main sources of carbohydrates. As much as possible, steer clear of junk foods, colas and anything with refined sugars (e.g., doughnuts) since they induce the production of cortisol, a primary age-inducing hormone.
Diet alone cannot meet all the necessary nutrients needed by our body. Thus, you need to take supplements like vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and other nutritional factors to be able to meet your daily requirements.
Physical activity can also alleviate the symptoms of aging. Since aging decreases your bone and muscle mass, it is good to have regular exercise which includes cardiovascular, flexibility, and strength training. Getting regular exercise has shown to help increase your metabolism, allowing you to burn more fat. It also strengthens your heart and keeps your body flexible. Furthermore, exercise stimulates the production of growth hormones, which helps to rejuvenate aged cells and reverse the aging process.
Stress only accelerates the aging process. That's why another key element in your anti-aging strategy is stress management. Try relaxing activities such as Yoga, sports, meditation, reading, massages, etc. These activities let you focus on other things and help you calm down and loosen up.
Another way to put off the common symptoms of aging is by natural hormone enhancement. The human growth hormone, produced by the pituitary gland, is largely involved with regulating the growth of body tissues. HGH comes in injections, spray and supplements (pills and tablets) which stimulate the pituitary gland to naturally increase its production. However, you should first consult with your physician before trying out anything.
Aging poses a great impact in the quality of our lives; but with a healthy lifestyle (including proper diet, supplements, regular exercise, stress management, and natural hormone enhancement), you can reduce or even prevent the symptoms associated with aging.
To each her own; and that applies to what a woman wants in bed -- either a fast fuck or the slow, smooth kind. However, it seems that most women prefer the sensual approach rather than the pound-pound-pounding away.
A slow, smooth approach will enable you and your partner to employ your senses and experience all the bliss related to the sexual experience. Feel her soft skin, see her lovely face, hear her moans, taste her mouth, and smell the scent of her body.
True, most films favor and highlight the fast and hard fucking. But that's just on film, silly! That's the way it's supposed to look -- quickly and vigorously. How else can they sustain your interest if they otherwise took the slow road? It'd be rather boring, wouldn't it? So, in order to get that wild and exciting impression, the porn stars are instructed to take the fast road. That's why men have created the illusion that this is just the way it is supposed to be done. Well, sorry to disappoint.
Besides there are advantages to the slow approach. One is that you get to explore her body more. It's not just her breasts and her twat that matters. Have you tried licking her ears, touching her nape or the back of her knees, or massaging her foot? Well, you should. These are highly erogenous areas of the woman's body' and it'd just be too selfish of you if you don't provide her the pleasure.
Women are turned on with kissing, caressing, licking (slurping even). It just sends her to the edge as you masterfully rein her back. This only makes her even hornier! She'll want you more and more if you tease her; building up the aching need inside her. Don't you just love hearing her moan and feel the tingling down her spine?
Build up her longing with romantic nuances like flickering candles, rose petals, fresh sheets, sweet music, kinky underwear or sex toy. This whole romantic package is important for her, so don't you try to shortchange her. Try out various foreplay techniques first before taking the slow plunge. Intense and increased desire only makes way for numerous orgasms.
A slow approach also conserves your energy for that surging crescendo. If you thrust harder and deeper, you are in a rush to get there. You're only forcing it; and it's not as satisfying as it should have been otherwise. It could also give your honey a stiff neck or sore back, for that matter. Several seconds of frenzy rewarded by a quick orgasm is rather limiting. Why not extend your pleasure even more?
Learn how to control your urges. Build up her longing with slow, deliberate thrusts, pausing curtly, and constricting your inner muscles. Touching fosters a stronger connection; the more you are familiar with each other's bodies, the more intimate your sexual encounters would be.
Every sexual experience means so much for a woman. So, try to approach your love-making with sincerity, confidence, and respect. You can show her this by making her feel special and by considering her needs. She may not say it out loud, but she needs more than a steely pecker inside her. She needs more than that, and you should know better.
You may pretty much have an idea where babies come from. (No, they're not from the stork!) To put it bluntly, you need a sperm cell and egg cell to make a baby. During sexual intercourse, a man's sperm, which is produced by the testes (testicles), is released into a woman's cervix, which "swims" to the fallopian tube. From the millions of sperm cells, one penetrates the egg in a process called fertilization. From there, a single life begins.
But where does the sperm come from? There are millions of sperm produced by your testes (testicles) everyday. Sperm cells undergo the natural cell division which inevitably leads to its maturation. Half of the sperm carries a Y chromosome (inherited from your dad) and an X chromosome (inherited from your mom). If a Y-carrying sperm fertilizes the woman's egg, the result is a baby girl. If on the other hand, it's the X-carrying sperm which fertilized the egg, then it's a baby boy.
During ejaculation, sperm is pumped into the man's vas deferens where fructose, seminal fluids, and other chemicals are secreted. Your sperm plus other seminal fluids (semen) hurries past the bladder through the urethra and out of your penis.
In order for the sperm to enter the woman's cervix, you need to experience erection, orgasm, and ejaculation. An erection takes place when your penis is stimulated or when you have an erotic thought. There is a sudden rush of blood to the erectile tissue chambers in the penis. This, in turn, engorges the penis making it hardened, enlarged and elevated.
With continued stimulation, orgasm and ejaculation ensues. Orgasm, known as the sexual climax, is a pleasurable emotional or psychological response that accompanies ejaculation. There are two stages of orgasm: the first one, called the ejaculatory inevitability, takes place two to four seconds before ejaculation. During these crucial seconds, you may be aware that you are about to "come," and you could not do anything to control it. Your seminal vesicles and your prostrate gland begin to throb. The second stage of orgasm takes place when you involuntarily ejaculate semen in convulsive surges. On average, one teaspoon (2-15 milliliters) of semen is ejaculated containing of 40 to 150 million sperm! The "first squirt" typically contains the largest amount of sperm.
Afterwards, you go through a recovery period where you cannot experience another orgasm. This may last several minutes and sometimes for hours.
Do you reach orgasm faster than you can say, "Fuck"? Many men dread this situation, and with good reason. Cumming too early or too fast robs you and your partner of the pleasure that sexual intercourse can give. This is believed to be the most common sexual complaint of couples. About 29 percent of men are reportedly bothered by these episodes.
There are many reasons why a man "cums" too fast. Biologically, men experience climax much earlier than women. They do so 2-3 minutes after penetration, in contrast to women who take their time (about 12-14 minutes). Likewise, there are also psychological factors that bring about early ejaculation. These include guilt, anxiety (lack of experience), or fear of sexually transmitted infections, potential pregnancy, etc. Older men are also known to be able to control their ejaculation as compared with their younger counterparts. They credit it to their experience.
So, how can you control yourself from ejaculating too quickly? One way is to exercise your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, which is the primary "sexual muscle" that forms part of the pelvis. The PC muscle is largely involved with sexual functions such as ejaculation and orgasm. With regular exercise, this muscle can provide firmer and larger erections, powerful ejaculations and more intense climaxes.
So where is this muscle located? Try stopping the flow of your urine midway. The PC muscle, located between the anus and scrotum, is the one you contracts when you try to stop the flow of your urine.
How to go about exercising your PC muscles? Try clenching and releasing your PC muscle in ten-second periods. Perform three sets of this. Take a breather. Now, try the clench-and-release technique for five seconds. Perform ten sets of this. This time, try tightening the muscle for 30 seconds and relaxing for 30 seconds. Perform three sets of this.
This exercise is rather simple and easy to perform. You can do it by yourself -- just about anytime and anywhere. You don't need any device or contraption to exercise your PC muscle. But, like all exercise regimens, you need to commit to a routine devotedly. Famous porn stars, with explosive cumshots, are even rumored to perform these exercises faithfully.
So next time you and your partner are making love, try to go inside her and pause for awhile. Don't move for several seconds; then try tightening and relaxing your PC muscle.
You also have to keep in mind that different women also prefer different types of sex. Some prefer the long and sensual approach; while others favor the pound-pound-pound approach. It's always better to know your partner's preference so that you can both enjoy an intimate sexual fun.
The age-old question, "Does size matter?" has been debated for eons. Both men and women alike are interested to know what really gives. Men are obsessed with the size of their penis and many have found ways to make their member larger. That's why the penis enlargement industry is booming offering everything -- from cream, pills, patches, weights, traction devices, and even surgery. The media and the overly-hyped stories of 'well-endowed' men have undoubtedly contributed to the already convoluted subject of penis size.
Men with larger organs are regarded to be more manly and better in bed. Thus, "Bigger is better" has become a popular adage. Furthermore, this insight seems to emanate from male vanity rather than the pleasure that your penis can provide. A small penis is equated to diminished masculinity, virility, and at times, also associated to impotency.
But, in fact, most researches have revealed that the average penis size is not the 12" advertised by porn stars. Besides, these porn stars are not representative of the average man. They may very well be more well-endowed than you (this is their luck) or have undergone some enlargement procedure. The average penis size is actually between 5.5 to 6.4 inches in erect length and 4.7 to 5.2 inches in girth.
But countless women have agreed that the length of the penis has not much to do with sexual pleasure; but width may indeed matter in the long run. It has to do with stimulating their G-spot which is supposed to be located about two inches inside the upper wall of the vagina.
The nerves that are stimulated during sexual intercourse are located near the entrance of the vagina and the anus. Penis girth is significant here since a meatier penis can stretch out the vaginal or anal walls that stimulate the nerves. This creates friction and sensation that most women love during a sexual experience.
Anyway, preference is still based on the individual woman. Because of the points highlighted above, many women have a penchant for larger dicks. But remember, it's not only a big penis women crave. They seek passion, intimacy and emotional connection. Remember to show her your love by giving her flowers, a sensual massage, or candles with rose petals. Assault her senses with romantic gestures and you'll be well rewarded. If you have a girthy penis, you'll be rewarded even more .
Experiment on different sexual positions and incorporate toys in your love-making. Identify her key erogenous zones (i.e., her clitoris) and come up with techniques to stimulate her -- with your tongue, vibrator, fingers, etc.
Penis size is important but it's also the combination of skill, passion and romance. After all, sex is as much fun as you make it.
A small penis is a curse for men. Although one could argue that other physical problems, such as not growing tall enough or a receding hairline, are just as bad, there are few things that can make a man shy away from physical intimacy like a small penis. Such men are not afraid of being rejected out of hand by women; they are actually afraid of being accepted because rejection is likely to be waiting down the line. The deep emotional scarring caused by a small penis acts like a barrier preventing many men from forming any kind of friendship that involves a certain level of physical intimacy. Changing in a locker room, going to the beach or a swimming pool and other such activities are all potential exposure situations which men have to avoid, no matter how much they may like to engage in them.
When it comes to finding a girlfriend, a small penis is the worst possible asset. It beats even not showering frequently enough, because a small penis makes a man ridiculous in the eyes of women. Many times it doesn’t even matter if the ladies in question make no comment on the size of the penis. The men always suppose themselves inadequate and suspect women of trying to protect or to fool them. This pattern of shyness, suspicion and distrust stays with men throughout their lives and tends to influence decisions on other issues. The negative impact on both the social and private lives of such men is enormous. Any man or woman who comes too close is under suspicion because they may reveal the “secret”, purposely or not, and expose the man in question to public ridicule.
The best way to deal with this issue is to try and get over the small size. Instead of letting this taint all your relationships with other people, you should count their blessings and ask themselves if a small penis is really that important in life. Stop comparing yourself with pornstars and bodybuilders with thighs as big as your torso, because such comparisons will do you no good. If you were average in physics, would you compare yourself with Einstein? I don’t think so. The second thing you can do is to look for the more decent girls, those who do not move around from one man to another. If a girl hasn’t had any sex in a while, she is sure to be tight enough that your small size won’t matter. And last, but not least: learn to trust other people. Once penis size is out of the way, you will understand that friendship and love are beautiful things.
